Who watched the season premier of “this is us” last night? 🙋🏼🙋🏼🙋🏼 If you’re raising your hand, then I’m sure you remember this heartbreaking line…
I can almost guarantee that there are thousands of women who ask theirselves this very same question over and over again. How did I get here?? I use to ask myself this question almost every day, even more now that I have gained back the 50 pounds that I lost last year. Every day the questions sit in the back of my head… how did I get here? How did I allow myself to eat away all of my hard work? How could I allow this to happen? I was that person standing in front of the scale scared to see how many more pounds I gained, asking myself what the hell happened?! I watched that scale go up every week and my fear grew more and more. I didn’t recognize myself anymore. I stopped taking pictures because that person in the picture didn’t feel like me, hell it didn’t even look like me anymore. I felt like a stranger in my body… short of breath from walking up the stairs? That never use to happen. This wasn’t me. I knew I needed to change, I knew this damn weight had to go. I knew that the equation eat less + exercise more was the answer… but it’s so damn more than that. There’s so much emotion and work that needs to go into this lifestyle change. You’re not just changing your appearance and what you eat. You start to change who you are, and you grow into a stronger person. A person that realizes they love their body, and NOT because of weight loss. You appreciate life and all that it has to give. You make new friends and meet new people. You go to new places and experience life. This lifestyle change is worth every moment but it’s so hard to start.
As I write this blog today, I really don’t know where i am going to take it or what my main purpose of this post will be. I may ramble and jump all over the place but I knew I HAD to write this blog today. I had to share WHY this scene hit home for me. It’s not easy when you hit that point of realization where you have no idea how you have gotten here. And honestly, most of us don’t know where to go from there. I have been there numerous times, more times then I can count. It’s easy to start diets and give up after a few days. It’s easy to say you’re going to start tomorrow and that you’re ready. It’s hard as hell to actually DO IT. You could buy 50 beach body programs or hire the best personal trainer in the world, but none of that is going to matter unless you actually DO IT and follow it every single day. So how in the heck do we do this? How can we take control of our lives and actually dedicate ourselves to changing our lifestyles?
I think the first most important step is answering the question we ask ourselves numerous times… how did I get here? We didn’t wake up and gain 50 pounds ove night. Life has brought us to this point and we need to figure out why. Was it stress? a new relationship? childhood trauma? Emotional eating? The list can go on with possibilities. It’s quite a challenge to sit down and really pin point what has brought you to your current life, with some help though, you should be able to figure it out. The next step is figuring out WHAT has kept you from Changing your lifestyle? What excuses keep you from moving forward to living a healthy life? What stops you from losing this damn weight??? Everyone has different excuses, different anchors holding them down stopping them from sailing to a new life. We can’t move to new oceans until our anchors are put away. The last step is figuring out where the heck we are sailing to. Where do we want this journey to take us? I’m not talking about simple answers like “lose 5 pounds” or “get toned”. We need to get deep and really think where we want our weight loss journey to take us. Maybe losing the weight means you will finally apply for that new job, or you’ll finally go on roller coasters with your children, or you’ll finally be able to walk into a room and not feel like you’re the biggest one there. Maybe your journey will take you to things even bigger like not being pre-diabetic, or not suffering from high blood pressure and high cholesterol.
If you’re still here with me, I want to thank you for taking the time to read my blog and I want to apologize for my unorganized rambling blog. I had no plans on writing today and really had no idea where this post would go but I knew that I wanted others that felt the same way as I do know that they are not alone and that we CAN do this. We are stronger than the label “overweight” and “obese”. We are NOT stuck here permenately, we can change our lifestyles and be the person we’ve always wanted to be. If you have read these questions and are lost with answering them, reach out to me and we will work through it together!! The biggest thing we desperately need in this journey is support. WE need to support each other.